Emptied: Experiencing the Fullness of a Poured-Out Marriage

By Wynter and Jonathan Pitts


I’ve been married to my best friend for twelve and a half years now and while marriage certainly hasn’t been a cake walk, ours has been what I’d describe as an adventure of navigating two unique individuals towards one heck of a partnership.

Seriously. I feel beyond blessed that my best friend is also the love of my life and my sole partner in life. Sure, we’ve experienced our share of lows and lulls but nothing has come close to shake or break the foundation we solidly stand on. I am eternally grateful for that 🙂

Still, after working on my 2019 book recap post I realized that I have dedicated a lot of time to my spiritual growth but have significantly neglected to invest in both my roles as a mother and spouse. The numbers don’t lie and seeing hard proof of reading only one book on marriage in 2019 was a huge shock to me. So much so that I vowed to begin the year seeking wisdom, encouragement and refreshment for my marriage by reading a book that had been sitting on my shelf for nearly a year.

Emptied: Experiencing the Fullness of a Poured-Out Marriage by Wynter and Jonathan Pitts was a book I had preordered before its release date but had never gotten around to reading it (I’m sure you know how that goes 😉 ).

The concept behind Emptied is pursuing a way of life that involves emptying yourself of personal ambitions and agendas in order for God to pour new life and light into you. The more you rid yourself of self, the more you are able for God to fill you with His Spirit and the fruit we so desperately crave – love, joy, peace, kindness, patience, goodness and faithfulness. Fueling yourself with things that satisfy your spirit will lead you to experience an abundant marriage that brims over and ultimately builds and strengthens God’s kingdom.

Knowing a little bit about this husband and wife team prior to reading Emptied initially intrigued me to purchase the book, but learning more of their story throughout this book added deeper levels of humility, intimacy and inspiration. Wynter and Jonathan Pitts vulnerably share personal struggles they battled within their own marital partnership as well as how they overcame them. Their writing style is very relatable and authentic, making this book an easy read that will challenge you to consider a different approach to your relationship by applying a selfless, Spirit-filled mindset.

Emptied is a book that will refresh your soul and fill your cup. It will motivate you to seek more out of your marriage but also out of your spiritual walk with Christ. While I found it worthwhile to read as someone who has been married for 12+ years, I think it is especially beneficial for engaged couples undergoing premarital counseling as well as newlyweds and couples married less than 5 years.

Marriage is a union that lasts a life-time – we should be dedicating and pursuing time in our life investing in this beautiful covenant. When we do, our families, communities, and other relationships will thrive and greatly impact God’s kingdom.


He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” ~ John 3:30 (NLT)

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