A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption

By Becket Cook


I don’t talk about it often on here, but it is a big part of my personal life and therefore, occupies a big piece of my heart.

My brother is gay and lives an open homosexual lifestyle as a successful drag queen in Hollywood, CA.

Ever since he came out to me in the summer of 2011, I knew my faith would be challenged and my beliefs convicted by having a very close family member living a life that is frowned upon by the Christian community I affiliate with. I have since spent the last eight years seeking counsel and wisdom from biblically sound and reputable Christian resources. I wrote a little more about this a few years ago in my blog post Lead with Grace, Live by Love. (I would love to answer any questions you may have or recommend specific material available for you to study – please shoot me a DM on social media or an email to continue this conversation 🙂 )

So given my love for my brother and my personal convictions on his lifestyle, I was immediately intrigued when I learned about a new book being released that was so relatable to my brother’s story.

A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption by Becket Cook is a book that is part memoir, part apologetic in nature. Written in first person, Cook uses his personal life experiences as a successful set designer in the fashion industry to describe the homosexual life he lived for several decades before accepting Jesus into His heart and recognizing his sinful bent towards same-sex attraction.

Oh my gosh, friends! I could not put this book down! Perhaps because it is so spot on to my brother’s life and the many conversations I’ve had with him over the years but perhaps it is just that brilliantly written (which I think it is!). I absolutely loved the healthy combination of memoir mixed with biblical support and concluded with FAQs he receives (as a man who used to be openly gay living in Hollywood, CA) as well as practical ways to support, encourage and love those who are part of the LGBTQ community.

A Change of Affection is so full of grace it is amazing! I’ve studied homosexuality and sex-same attraction quite a bit so I was deeply encouraged to learn that everything in this book supports the wisdom I’ve obtained over the years. Moreover, hearing Cook’s own testimony, conviction and current life as a witness for Jesus is truly priceless and genuinely puts this book at the top of my list of “must reads” for understanding the biblical stance on homosexuality.

One last thing I will mention that I really appreciated was the closing chapters of this book. Cook ties everything together by reiterating the importance of love as well as the ability to stand firm on biblical Truth. Our world today is run by culture and it seems almost daily Christian churches, leaders, and believers are feeling the pressure to conform to what the world says is true while throwing out what the Bible claims as Truth. The main reasoning so many Christians are conforming to culture today is either out of fear of not being accepted, weakness of their own faith or simply choosing to believe the Bible is outdated and irrelevant in today’s modern world. Cook does an impactful job, in my opinion, at encouraging Christians to stick to our convictions while also granting both love and grace to those who are “different” than us. For me, Cook’s words warning against conforming were so powerful as he reminded the reader of the ramifications of continuing to live a life of sin.

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